The other morning I was sitting with a few of my mentors and friends and I was telling them that I had  been challenged to work on my “relationshits”,  as soon as I heard what I had said I started laughing because I realised that that was probably the biggest Freudian slip I had ever done!  We all laugh and thought yep, that’s true, relationship can be relationshits!  Among all the laughing I started to scrutinize (as I do) what I had said and why I had said it.  As I sat there I realized exactly how important relationships really are, not only with other people but with yourself and the toll that relationshits can take on the physical body.

I have studied many forms of healing modalities one of which being white tantra and whilst most may think that tantra is primarily focused around sex it is not.  Tantra is about true intimacy and connection.  When I talk about intimacy I like to change it to “into me you see” because that is what true intimacy is, it’s about allowing yourself to be seen (with clothes on) completely exposed, nowhere to run or hide, all your flaws out in the open for the other person to see and experience.  When there is a true intimate connection the other person accepts you without judgments or questions, they are able to hold space for you to just be.  They watch you in all your glory allowing your true colours to shine brightly and the more they hold that space the more you can relax into just being. Can you imagine how beautiful it would be to have someone hold space for you so you can just be without having to worry about hurting/insulting them because they accept you wholly?  It would be fabulous wouldn’t it? That would definitely be a relationship and not a relationshit! But can you hold that space for yourself?  How intimate are you with yourself?  Can you accept yourself wholly?

One of the reasons I did my Tantra Goddess training was so I could learn to hold that space for myself and a partner. Despite my training there were still deep seeded judgments that I didn’t even know I had until my mentor pointed them out to me in conversation.  I resisted it when he pointed them out to me because naturally after all this training I thought I have transcended them but the fact of the matter was that I still had some judgments that were affecting my relationships and turning them into relationshits.  It never had anything to do with the other person or situation but everything to do with me.  I wasn’t holding that space for me.  Please note, when I use the term relationships I don’t necessarily mean romantic ones, relationships can be the ones you have at work with your colleagues, with your family, at school with your teachers and fellow students, relationships with money and business and of course with yourself.  When you think about it everything in this life comes down to relationships so guess what, if you have relationshits rather than relationships your life isn’t as easy as it could be.  We are conditioned in believing that life is meant to be hard and that if you dare to love your heart will be ripped out and smashed.  Right? Isn’t this what we are told most of the time?  Rubbish!! Life and love can be easy, in fact they are meant to be.  Life and love are meant to be exciting and pleasurable not grim and unhappy.

Most of us understand that relationships are energetic connections right?  The perceptions of our reality affect our moods, which in turn affect the energetic force around us, which affects our relationships and have the potential to turn them into relationshits.  What we project we attract, so be mindful of that and also of the fact that the relationship that you are having or aren’t having could be causing havoc in your physical body too.  Energetic blockages can manifest into diseases, look at the word for a minute, ‘dis- ease’ dis ease of what? Dis ease of your mind and energetic body that’s what!  A relationshit may feel like the weight of the world on your shoulders causing you stiffness and soreness in your shoulders and neck. You may not even be aware of all the afflictions that your relationshits may be inflicting on you but the fact of the matter is that energy blocks affect your entire being and therefore affect all areas of your life.  Can you imagine how amazing and awesome life would be if you were able to free your body from pain caused by energetic blockages and remove any blocks that may stopping you from living the life you want? How is this relevant to healthy relationships? Living the life you want is a direct reflectionof the relationship you have with yourself which is the most important relationship.  I have studied and continue to study many modalities as mentioned before I am doing a PhD in Metaphysics – The Benefits Of A Holistic Lifestyle.  I am passionate about self-improvement and self-realisation.  I have helped many people free themselves from emotional blockages that have caused physical pain and have stopped some from pursuing a life they dream off by simply be turning their relationshits into relationships. So stop sabotaging your life and book your free 15 minutes session to see how I can help you by emailing me at: pritha@consciouscooking.com.au